Ideas I love: Kintsugi

Several years back there was a violent death of five individuals that touched our family.  All the deaths were born out of generational trauma and the ultimate price was paid by a brilliant and beautiful young man and four members of a marginalized group of people doing nothing more than going to the doctor in another…

The example of non perfection and mistake making

My kids, I fear, might never learn from me the fine art of a good conversation, or the capacity to feel confident in any situation, or a knack for tidiness or well-appointed clothes or home furnishings, but they will be comfortable with non-perfection.   The perpetual overabundance of one and underabundance of another… They will be…

Drowning in love notes

A repost from October 2012 Fingers click clacked the letters urgently. The white paper set intrepidly by the keyboard and the soft eyes looking, waiting so quietly for the click clacking to stop, and the realization to set in. Focused deeply on a task, the click clacker doesn’t realize what the blue eyes are patiently…

what it looked like when…

the problem with showing pictures is that to some people it looks like a nauseating display of “perfect family,”  I can assure you I chose not the easy road in marriage, as I am wont to do.  However, perhaps this proclivity to difficulty has made me that much more appreciative of the small things. this…

Oregon Coast 2015

This summer, for the first time ever, we decided to take one 2 week long camping trip.  I didn’t realize what this was, this camping for 2 weeks thing.  Originally we were going to go to Yellowstone, but for uninteresting reasons, we settled on going down the part of the Oregon Coast we had not…

My next trick…

I have been writing here for 10 years.  See…? Places I have lived and the the first on wordpress… Shameless Adeline, yes her, was a mere babe.  So much life here!  And as I go through it, there is so much change. But I have been wanting to move on.  A decade is a good run….

Graduating.

If one is graduating, it’s fairly certain that they have: been asked what they are going to do next been given advice been given more advice, often based on the advice giver’s experiences or observations Only the treacherous offer advice that is not well-intentioned.  Some advice can be useful.  Some can really be awful.  Sometimes…

Half of 2015 in pictures

See this face?  The center of my days, the middle of my schedule, the priority of many of my hours are right here.  Today’s activity? Tea Party, of course.  Because when 6 asks you to her tea party, naturally, we are “Delighted!” Because it is no small thing. She even prepared real tea. In Russia my…

Changing directions, getting muddy and redeeming mess

Not so long ago an educational program was started.  The goals were to have conversations about things dear to the heart, to hear other ideas, to meet other people, to read some different books and have some new thoughts. Unfortunately, the educational program was located a tad far from the home, and so the online…

Diversity

This is a repost from about 10 years ago. Writing 121 was a required course for all undergraduates.  In that class we were assigned to write a paper on Diversity. I didn’t really know what was meant by “diversity”. For some people it means many races, for some it means just black and white, for…