If you aren’t pregnant this post would most likely make your eyes roll back into your head. If you are pregnant, it might be interesting. If you had a C-section and are thinking of another kid, it might be worth a read.
When I had my first kid, I labored for nearly 24 hours before they said “You’re too tired,” and said my body was shaped wrong for this kid to come out… and they wheeled me in for a C-Section. At the time, I was certainly medicated, and the way they were all looking at me, it was like this was the only option. Afterward, I tried hard to focus on the beautiful girl I had and not so much on the fact that I never imagined a C-section for myself, and in fact, skipped that part entirely in any consideration of how having the kid would go.
Now I am pregnant with child number 2. I guess, since I am late 30’s and because of the reasons A wasn’t coming along as quickly in her delivery I honestly just figured that I had better get another C-section, plus alot of doctor’s and hospitals won’t do anything but that once you have had a C-Section.
Adding to the complicatedness, I moved to a small town where options are limited anyway. I have to drive 45 min to an OB/Gyn who would take me as her patient after I passed 10 weeks into the pregnancy. Many doctors apparently will not accept you as a patient if you are past 10 weeks into the pregnancy. I never heard of a more stupid rule, but there it is.
After getting the doctor, and getting to the midpoint in my pregnancy, I am thinking more about how this is all going to go down.
My question is this: Why does almost every website on the internet say that regular delivery after a cesarean is safer than another C-Section if so many providers and hospitals won’t do them?
I feel like they are all messin’ with me. No, actually I don’t really trust my provider so much as to carte blanche think that she has my best interest in mind. But I did trust my previous provider immensely and more and she is the one who recommended induction with misoprostol (apparently not even approved for that purpose), an epi at 2 centimeters and all sorts of interventions that eventually led to a C-section.
Now I am just kind of starting to feel a bit angry. I am wondering at 20 weeks if another OB/Gyn experience is what I want. If I can even get a midwife so late. If with my previous reason for not delivering very quickly would replay itself and lead to yet another unplanned c-section, thus making sticking with the OBGyn the better option.
I have learned that over 30 percent of all births now in the US are done by C-section. The recommended percentage is 10 to 15 percent. It is hard not to imagine that part of the reason for all these C-sections has alot to do with cost and convenience to the people who run the system. Why would any woman elect to have major abdominal surgery?
All the information I am finding is upsetting. The inducing seems to be lending itself to the increase in C-Sections. I was told that the risk of the baby staying after it was due was dangerous, and inducing would be safer.
At this point, I sort of wonder if I wasn’t a fool for trusting my provider. And I wonder if I would be a fool again for getting into it with another provider. I wonder if going with a midwife wouldn’t just put me in the same place as before, laboring for a long time only to have another C-Section.
And finally, I have a feeling that there are very few parties to be trusted, and that many are working their own angle.